Healing The Mother Wound in 5 Easy Steps

IS IT TOO LATE?

When I received that dreaded phone call early one morning before the sun came up, I sat thinking - she’s gone…she’s really gone. The news that my mother had passed away lingered before me. 

I thought of all the things I wanted to say to her and  the mother-daughter relationship I’d continually hoped for; it was too late…

Even though she is gone from this world, the wound in my heart is still here. Healing this wound is still important. For my emotional health, my growth and my relationships …. It is not too late.

Growing up with an absent mother and the message that I must earn love, left me wounded. Far into adulthood I carried this wound, this unresolved trauma. If you are in a similar situation, jump on board! I am going to share with you 5 clear-cut ways to heal your mother-wound.

You are going to learn how to parent your inner child the way you wished your own mother had.  

I will break it down into 5 easy practices:

1. Write a Letter

Write a letter to your mom from your inner child. Let her know the things you wish she could have done for you, or how you wish she would have loved you. 

2. Take Note of Negativity 

Take note each time you start to speak negatively about yourself or other women; then think of one thing you appreciate about yourself or the other person.

3. Practice Self-Acceptance

While looking in the mirror each morning say: “I accept myself & my body and I feel safe within it” 

4. Observe From a Different Perspective

Observe your mother today from an adult point of view. Try to understand that she herself has unresolved traumas and human flaws. Make note of her emotional wellbeing, the state of her relationships and the way she engages in the world. This will give you insight into areas that you need healing from. 

5. Write a Letter and Read it Often

Write a letter to your future self that includes all the things you’re proud of yourself for overcoming. Keep this letter and read it often.

These 5 practices will help you heal your mother-wound and learn how to be your own parent- the parent your inner child still longs for. We must heal ourselves and our past trauma in order to live a life filled with joy and happiness.

Deep down I feel guilty that I’m not writing a tribute to my mother. I wish I was able to. What I would like to do, is help others heal from my own experiences. That’s what sisterhood is about, right? Helping each other, lending a hand, and sharing wisdom. I have learned through my own healing journey, to extend grace towards my mom. I have realized that she grew up in a trauma filled home, with little resources or knowledge on emotional healing. She did the best she knew how. 

If you are on this journey of healing your mother-wound, stick with it. Little by little, day by day, you will heal. Your inner child is thanking you. Let’s learn and practice together. Let’s be the best parent to ourselves so we can be amazing parents to our children!  Until next time, XOXO Kerry