Self-Love
What it is, why we need it, and how to get it
Self-love is the belief you hold that you are a valuable and worthy person.
My journey to self-love has taken what feels like a lifetime. I’ve struggled with feelings of unworthiness, ugliness, shame and disappointment for most of my life. For me, I can trace my lack of self-love back to childhood neglect. I then found as I entered adulthood, I was well underway to developing an anxious attachment style in relationships. I continually attracted and unconsciously sought out emotionally unavailable men. After being raped in college, my self-esteem plummeted and I fell into a cycle of depression, an ongoing eating disorder and abusive relationships.
Common theme: I did not love myself and kept searching for someone to love me. What I didn’t know was that I needed to love myself first.
We need self-love in order to be truly happy.
We must believe that we are WORTHY of love and goodness in our lives before we can feel true happiness. When we love ourselves, we can finally show up for ourselves and live our best life. Attracting abundance into our lives- starts with self-love.
A lot of us do not know how to love ourselves. This may be due to childhood trauma, our needs not getting met as a child, or caregivers that suffered their own trauma and could not give us the love we desired.
How to Start Loving Yourself:
7 Amazing Tips to Transform Yourself and Become Your Own Biggest Fan
- Keep 1 small promise to yourself daily (ex: wake up 10 min early to journal)
- Put yourself 1st in your life. Ask yourself ‘what do I need right now?’
- Connect with your inner child daily. (journal, write a letter to your younger self, meditate, PLAY, prioritize your hobbies).
- Stop the negative thoughts/chatter in your mind. Replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts.
- Forgive yourself and forgive those that mistreated you.
- Pray - make a prayer notecard and write down all your prayers. Then as they are answered, cross them off. Seeing with our own eyes that good things are happening in our lives is very powerful.
- Daily Gratitude- write down 3 things you are grateful for each day.
XOXO, Kerry
"Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives."
-louise hay
Author: Kerry Schnelle
